How to pray

I’ve just finished reading a book by Gregg Braden on the lost science of prayer (titled The Isaiah Effect) and it gave me the urge to share the fundamental message contained within.

Gregg Braden has spent a lot of his life dedicated to studying traditional cultures and philosophies with an emphasis on those traditions that are still being practised today.  In this book he explains why our prayers are often not answered and what it is we need to do to have them answered.

Based on the Dead Sea Scrolls, it seems certain books and lines were removed from the Christian bible in edits made in the 4th Century by the Council of Nice. The importance of these edits is in the explanations of how to pray.

Matthew 7:7-8 says “Ask and it shall be given you…” and so we ask in our prayers for
what we desire, but asking is not the way. This incredibly marvelous and beautiful life is
a feeling universe and responds to the powerful electromagnetic frequencies of our
hearts, rather than our brains.
It is the combination of mental clarity and visualization and desire/passion that is empowered in our hearts through gratitude and thanks that creates our physical reality.
Asking only emphasizes the existence of what you are currently lacking in your life, whereas generating the feelings of already having something, and giving thanks for the choice you have to decide your reality, is what changes your actual physical experience. This is the message taken from the bible and confirmed time and time again in ancient texts and by living cultures that have maintained their traditions and wisdom throughout the centuries.
To quote Gregg “Once we have created the image of our desire in our mind and felt the feeling of the desire fulfilled within our heart, it has already happened!”
Now go and feel life like never before 🙂

Free from Thought (when you choose to be)

Why would anyone want to be free from thought?

Quite simply, because thought is the source of ALL your pain and suffering. So unless you are masochistic by nature and like to suffer – actually fairly common from what I have observed, although admittedly unconsciously as I don’t think any sane person would consciously choose to suffer – it seems logical to me that you would choose to aleviate yourself of the cause of pain.

I’m not talking about thought in terms of the skills you have learnt or useful knowledge to perform tasks, but about psychological knowledge which constitutes your world view, opinions and beliefs (memory).

Not sure what the heck I’m talking about or what that actually means? Okay, so just sit in a comfortable position for a moment, take a few deep breaths and consciously relax your body. Now consciously relax your mind while still breathing deeply and slowly become more and more relaxed…

Negate all thought, even if just for a few seconds and while your mind is free of thought, albeit for a brief moment, be aware of the feelings and sensations.

Is there pain? Suffering? Anguish, worry, fear…? Judgement, criticism, complaint…?

Is there peace, harmony, tranquility? An absence of need, want or desire?

Is anything important?

That’s what I’m talking about. Regardless of whether or not it is possible to remain in such a state for any significant length of time, I consciously and clearly desire to be there.

“Happiness is nothing more than good health and a bad memory” Albert Schweitzer

“Gratitude is when memory is stored in the heart and not in the mind” Lionel Hampton

“People don’t realize that now is all there ever is; there is no past of furture except as memory or anticipation in your mind” Eckhart Tolle


It’s not about What, it’s about How

What’s the meaning of life? What’s the point of living?

All of us ask ourselves at one time or another (or regularly!) questions like “What should I do with my life to be happy?”, “What can I do to improve my life?”, “Am I doing what I was born to do?”, “If I could only do…..then things would be better”. Ad infinitum.

We spend our lives focused on what. What to do now, what not to do, what to do next, what we did, or didn’t, do days, weeks or years ago, what we should, shouldn’t, must, mustn’t, would like to do etc. while at the same time what we really want is simply to feel good, regardless of what we are doing.

If we are doing something we would usually identify as pleasant but are not feeling good then it’s not a nice experience, is it? But if we are doing something we would usually identify as unpleasant but are feeling good then it would be a nice experience, despite the circumstances, wouldn’t it?

So WHAT you are doing matters but little my friend – peace, joy, happiness and pleasantness are only found in the HOW of things. How I am doing what I am doing is the key to a joyful life. As the adage goes, it’s about the journey and not the destination. It’s true!

Now HOW is all about awareness. The more awareness you bring to what you are doing, the more you are focused on the how, rather than the what. Awareness lets in the joy of simply living and closes the door to memory and its interminable mind games.

Yeh; i know, theory is always the easy part and intellectually understanding something doesn’t change a damn thing. Well, actually understanding intellectually IS the first step in change. Once an intellectualy understanding is assimilated emotionally then it starts to become real change.

To take the step from intellectual understanding to emotional requires you to have a heightend awareness of your physical body – Emotion being e-motion, or energy-in-motion. Energy in motion within your body creates your feelings, thoughts and actions, so it really is the building block of your life experience.

When you are aware of the energy flowing through your body at any given time (where it is, how strong, pleasant or unpleasant…) then you have a heightened appreciation of your state and are consequently living in the HOW rather than the what.

When you are actually aware of something you are able to make a conscious choice to either stay with it or change it, aren’t you? A lack of awareness is when you lose control and become a victim of your mind’s madness.

As always, you mind would love you to think that true peace either doesn’t exist or requires you to be an extraordianary human being or requires you to live and die thousands of times first, when in reality it’s a consequence of just being outside of the mind.

Breathe deep, relax and feel the energy!

“How can one ever know anything if they are too busy thinking?” Gautama Buddha

“Be where you are; otherwise you will miss your life” Buddha




Law of Attraction

When the now famous book The Secret came out around 10 years ago I tried intently to understand it and apply the lessons in the book in my life. Considering my business was sold, I lost my home and then was divorced within the five years following reading the book I think I could safely say I didn’t get the message.

In the last five years, however, my life has gone from strength to strength and I have achieved everything I have set out to achieve (only limited by my own expectations of what is possible). Without being consciously aware of it, I have improved my understanding of, and application of, one of the most powerful laws of life – the Law of Attraction.

There are many ways to name and describe this law but for me the greatest realisation has been through the concept of vibration. The Law of Attraction is also known as the Law of Vibration. In its essence, everything is energy: we are energy. That is, we are constantly vibrating and those vibrations are determined by what we are thinking and feeling.

Now, for me, the real breakthrough was when I finally understood that the vibrations created from our thoughts and feelings happen inside us, and only inside us. It makes no difference who or what you are thinking about, who or what you are looking at or who or what you are talking to -everything happens inside our own bodies. That is why “what goes around comes around”. In fact, its not even going around, we are simply just creating it inside ourselves with every thought and every feeling.

Anger, sadness, frustration, bitterness, despair, spite and all negative thoughts are creating negative emotions inside our body, regardless of who these thoughts are directed at. They may or may not affect the other person, but they sure as hell affect ourselves. We are our own worst enemy!

Oh, and our own best friend, if we choose to be so.

That brings me to my second realisation and that is how fundamental it is to love and appreciate yourself. I cannot stress this enough!! I am not talking about arrogance or pride, but of an essential self-respect and tenderness towards oneself. You cannot be to another as you are not to yourself – fact. To love and care for you is to love and care for others. It really is that simple.

Oh, and you are the only one who can do this. This is your greatest responsibility and your key to all.

When you see that every thought and every feeling is created within you and literally changes who you are, you must come to a realisation of how important it is to treat every thought and feeling with its due attention because with every vibration they create, they are defining your tomorrow.

“All that we are is a result of what we have thought” Buddha

“It is the combination of thought and love which forms the irresistible force of the law of attraction” Charles Haanel



fullsizerender-31.jpgYou’re lying on your deathbed (bear with me!) with just a few hours left to breath on this beautiful planet…NOW what is truly important to you? What would you most want to do in those last moments? Who would you most like to be with? What would you most like to say, and to whom? What would you most like to see, taste, smell, touch, feel? What do you regret not having done? What would you have changed about your life?

Personally, I believe that a having clear mind is one of the hardest yet most-important responsibilities in life. A clear mind is a happy mind, a focused mind and a powerful mind. Clarity is absolutely fundamental for a successful life. Without clarity we aren’t moving in any particular direction or at least not focusing our energies to achieve more, faster.

it should be one of the school curriculum subjects! Certain traditional cultures around the world understand the importance of a clear direction in life. They often spend many years as a community helping young adults to discover their purpose in life and start on their path to mastery of whatever that purpose is.

Clarity is the starting point from where you become the master of circumstances, rather than a slave to it. It’s when you take control of your life through discovering your purpose and motivations. Reflect, reflect, reflect on the questions posed above (and others as they come to you) until you are crystal clear about your passions, interests and values that will guide you in your life.

As always, the spiritual before the psychological and physical. The hard work is mental and requires courage to go beyond what society, family, friends and your past dictate to you and decide for yourself what matters and where you are going. A dominant sign of all successful people is precisely the courage to believe in themselves, which is to know themselves and decide for themselves, regardless of outside influence.

You, and only you, can know what is best for you, what mission you have in life and where to start. There may be 7.5 billion people on the planet, but you are still unique and individual; we all are. How can anyone know you better than yourself if we are all unique? Be brave, be free, have clarity!

“Children are remarkable for their intelligence and ardor, for their curiosity, their intolerance of shams, the clarity and ruthlessness of their vision.” Aldous Huxley

“I genuinely enjoy sweating out my frustrations and living a healthier life. My workouts are not all about vanity. They are about clarity for my mind and soul.” Khloe Kardashian


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