Great Books – The Master Key System by Charles F. Haanel

This hmaster-key-systemas to be one of my all-time favourite books. Charles F. Haanel was an American businessman who lived from the late 19th Century through to the mid 20th. His great personal success in life led him to study and identify the keys to a boundless and happy life.

The book is jam-packed full of enlightening content, not onlyexplaining to the reader the truths about how our minds and the universe interact to create our lives, but also a methodology for aligning ourselves with the laws of the universe in order to purposefully manifest.

The “Master Key System” refers to a series of exercises aimed at giving you greater awareness of yourself and the world around you and to hone the vital skills of attention and visualisation needed to direct and create your life.

Mr Haanel first stresses that you, and only you, are responsible for the quality of your life. Youget what you give, in the sense of the thoughts and images generated constantly in your mind. It is up to you to realise and accept that controlling your thoughts, feelings and images is the key to creating a life exactly as you would like it.

Alternatively you are subject to the same “luck” you have had all along based on your habitual lines of thought, feelings and actions.

To take control of your thoughts and feelings IS possible but requires willingness, persistence and determination through the application of specific exercises. The more control you gain over your body and mind, the more you will be able to purposefully direct your life.

Fundamentally you take the time out necessary each day to practice this mastery. It requires astate of peace and relaxation always. Once relaxed, your work is to firstly banish all unwanted thoughts, feelings and images and then idealise and visualise those things you want in your life.

Practice, effort and persistence based on these guidelines will allow you to grow stronger and gradually take more control of your life, directing it instead of being directed.

This is a truly inspiring book, written from someone who lived and breathed every word written in it. What better example can you ask for?

“Our future is entirely within our own control. It is not at the mercy of any capricious or uncertain external power.” Charles F Haanel

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ABOUT FORGIVENESS

Foregiveness

Having been through a divorce a few years back with 2 small children I had the opportunity to reflect long and hard on forgiveness. Yep, over and over…

What is forgiveness? Why do we need to forgive? Is it even necessary? Is it possible?

Although it might seem contradictory, forgiveness is fundamentally about you, not anyone else. It is about you because it is you who suffers when you carry resentment and anger inside you. It is about you because you cannot forgive without first making an effort to really understand the situation. It is about you because you cannot forgive without being really honest with yourself. It is about you because it is your responsibility to love and respect yourself first and foremost.

Forgiveness comes fundamentally from a willingness to forgive and a sincere desire to understand. You cannot easily forgive someone through just wanting to be a good person and leaving the past behind you. It requires a willingness to forgive and a clarity that forgiveness is about you finding peace.

To forgive does not necessarily mean to forget or trust again. Forgiveness is to accept what has happened and know it cannot be undone. It is what it is and the important thing now is to be happy and that cannot happen when you carry the burdens of the past with you.

Life is only lived right NOW, so the only moment that truly matters is now. You’re primary concern, therefore, should be that you feel great right now. Everything that takes you away from that should be banished. Forgiveness starts with forgiving yourself for what happened (why did I let it…how could I be so stupid…why didn’t I…) which allows you to live peacefully now.

If I don’t feel good right now, then my life is not a good one and I will just continue to live more of the same in the future (because what I think and feel today will define me tomorrow). That MUST be my priority, and if that is my priority then I must let the past go. Letting the past go is about ME being happy right now. It has nothing to do with anyone else. I am the only person who can truly understand me and I am the only person who can make my life better.

I forgive because I want to be happy right now (have a quality life) and because I know the past can never be undone. I forgive because I know that will improve my quality of life and of those around me. I forgive so that I am free from the past, but I do not forget as the lessons learnt from my experiences can be valuable in being clear about who and what I choose in my life. I forgive because I choose to be a strong person and be an example for others to follow.

I forgive because I love and respect me!

“The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.”                    Mahatma Ghandhi

“The first step of forgiveness is the willingness to forgive.”                                          Marianne Williamson

INSPIRATION…

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FIND YOUR LIFE PURPOSE. FIND CLARITY

fullsizerender-31.jpgYou’re lying on your deathbed (bear with me!) with just a few hours left to breath on this beautiful planet…NOW what is truly important to you? What would you most want to do in those last moments? Who would you most like to be with? What would you most like to say, and to whom? What would you most like to see, taste, smell, touch, feel? What do you regret not having done? What would you have changed about your life?

Personally, I believe that a having clear mind is one of the hardest yet most-important responsibilities in life. A clear mind is a happy mind, a focused mind and a powerful mind. Clarity is absolutely fundamental for a successful life. Without clarity we aren’t moving in any particular direction or at least not focusing our energies to achieve more, faster.

it should be one of the school curriculum subjects! Certain traditional cultures around the world understand the importance of a clear direction in life. They often spend many years as a community helping young adults to discover their purpose in life and start on their path to mastery of whatever that purpose is.

Clarity is the starting point from where you become the master of circumstances, rather than a slave to it. It’s when you take control of your life through discovering your purpose and motivations. Reflect, reflect, reflect on the questions posed above (and others as they come to you) until you are crystal clear about your passions, interests and values that will guide you in your life.

As always, the spiritual before the psychological and physical. The hard work is mental and requires courage to go beyond what society, family, friends and your past dictate to you and decide for yourself what matters and where you are going. A dominant sign of all successful people is precisely the courage to believe in themselves, which is to know themselves and decide for themselves, regardless of outside influence.

You, and only you, can know what is best for you, what mission you have in life and where to start. There may be 7.5 billion people on the planet, but you are still unique and individual; we all are. How can anyone know you better than yourself if we are all unique? Be brave, be free, have clarity!

“Children are remarkable for their intelligence and ardor, for their curiosity, their intolerance of shams, the clarity and ruthlessness of their vision.” Aldous Huxley

“I genuinely enjoy sweating out my frustrations and living a healthier life. My workouts are not all about vanity. They are about clarity for my mind and soul.” Khloe Kardashian

INSPIRATION

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NO EXCUSES

ExcusesI was once involved in a work project given to us by the executive management team involving myself and 5 other managers. By the end of the 3 month project, there were just 3 of us left in it and of those three, two of us had done 95% of the work. The shocking point here is that all of us were local or area manager level.

It’s about mindset and taking responsibility. When you are in a fixed mindset then the blame for unwanted circumstances and events generally falls on someone or something else. When you refuse to take (at least some) responsibility for events then you will never make progress as nothing gets done, and no progress is made without action.

Excuses are the easy way out. A successful project, job and life isn’t about justifying with all the reasons why something did or didn’t happen or get done, but about deciding, finding the time and resolving.

Start at the beginning. When you have a choice in the matter, don’t commit unless you are 100% on board and will follow through. If you don’t have a choice (e.g. work obligations) then focus your energy on planning and executing rather than why it can’t/couldn’t be done.

Fundamentally excuses denote a focus on “me”, as opposed to “us”. The truth of the matter though is that a successful and happy life is most-certainly more about focussing on “us” than “me”. You know that if you avoid responsibility it sticks and nags, hounding you until you either spend the effort to do what’s expected of you, or you spend the effort in creating a “feasible” excuse.

Either way you’ve had to focus on the task, so why not just focus on getting it done rather than why you didn’t? It’s a win/win; taking “excuses” out of your vocabulary means you will be fulfilling your responsibilities and getting more done. This means, setting yourself up for greater success and achievement. Just do it! 🙂

“You can make excuses or you can make progress. You choose.” Brian Tracy

“It is better to offer no excuse than a bad one.” George Washington

“I attribute my success to this: I never gave or took an excuse.” Florence Nightingale

INSPIRATION…

 

Great Books – Freedom from the known by Jiddu Krishnamurti

This is a fantastic book summarising a lot of the key teachings from the late Jiddu Krishnamurti.

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After spending his childhood and many years as a young adult being groomed as a “World Teacher” he rejected his imposed obligations and dedicated the rest of his wonderful life to inspiring people to free themselves from ego and its associated madness.

There are innumerable words of wisdom to be taken from the book, a few of which I will share with you now and you can also see summarised in the mind map

  • The key to change is understanding. To truly understand aproblem is to act upon it and therefore resolve it.
  • The “observer” and the “observed”. You act and then the voice in your head judges that action through commentary (criticism, anger, complaint, comparison…). The voice in your head likes to think it is separate from “who” is doing the acting, but it’s not true; they are one and the same. This separation is a fundamental cause of human suffering as we avoid responsibility and attribute blame.
  • Real understanding comes only through observation without commentary.
  • Time does not exist. It is a creation of thought, and the very creation of the “past” and the “future” lends itself to suffering through living in them, rather than in the only reality which is this precious living moment right now, and now, and now…:-)
  • True freedom is when you are free from the past and future, unconditionally. Free from your knowledge, experiences, fears and desires so you can live joyously in the present moment. Don’t try and label it as thought cannot comprehend or describe true freedom…
  • True love is not an emotion and not conditioned by any demand or requirement. True love cannot be understood by thought so cannot be adequately described with words.

Jiddu Krishnamurti was focused on ending human suffering and above all encouraged people to think for themselves. To take the time to ask ourselves existential questions and to follow the answers through to the end. To truly understand human behaviour in general, as we are all essentially the same when it comes to basic emotions.

He pointed out the current violent state of the world, despite thousands of years of organised religions – what has to change? The individual. We are only responsible for changing ourselves, but that one change can start a chain reaction. If you want change in the world, then BE that change.

I highly recommend this book as a guide to understanding all the facets of human behaviour and to clarify why we are as we are and how we can improve and contribute more peace and harmony to our lives and the lives of those around us.

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CREATING LASTING CHANGE

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Having spent more than 20 years reading, listening, reflecting, considering, trialling, observing, learning, attending (phew!) and a host of other things I’ve likely forgotten, I’ve come to a realisation; real, lasting change IS possible.

Not only is it possible, but it’s deceptively simple. No kidding!

Consider for a moment a time in your life when you have changed a habit or achieved a goal with apparent ease. Actually, that is exactly when you are successful. You will not achieve significant change or success when your actions are forced and you are “obliged” to do it. “Musts” generally get spat back at you by your omnipresent ego. “Really? You’re telling me I have to do it…well we’ll see about that!”

All permanent change comes from within and is relatively effortless. This is because once you have decided something spiritually, the psychological and physical just follow through. By spiritual, I mean the real you. When you have understanding, clarity, reason and make a clear decision, then your subconscious will do as instructed and almost seamlessly remove desire and create new habits.

It may sound too good to be true, but the truth of the matter is that all things brilliant in life are ingeniously simple – in fact, too “easy” and “simple” for our egos to accept as a possibility. That’s where you have to take control and guide your subconscious (the seat of habit and beliefs) to change through clarity and decision.

Start with a clear “why”. What is the reason for this change? What do I stand to gain by it and what is my motivation for doing it? Why is the change better than the status quo? What pain am I avoiding through this change? Can I see very clearly the benefits? Can I visualise myself with this new habit/s and how good they look and feel?

When you can really see yourself with the change already in place and feel how wonderful it is to be there, your subconscious will accept it as important and guide you in your new habits almost without effort. Your work is to clearly understand the why and deeply feel the need for the change as well as clearly visualising it. You are almost demanding the change because it is so clear to you why you need it. This clarity dissipates doubt and fear and empowers you forwards.

It really is that simple! If you can’t think of a personal example from your life to date I encourage you to try it out for yourself. Don’t let your ego fool you into thinking that enormous effort is required for any change or that it is just downright impossible. Bollocks! After all, most of your actions in life are just habitual so it’s simply a question of changing them.

be strong!

“You must be the change you wish to see in the world.” Mahatma Gandhi

“If you don’t like how things are, change it! You’re not a tree.” Jim John

“Face the facts of being what you are, for that is what changes what you are.” Soren Kierkegaard

INSPIRATION…