It’s not about What, it’s about How

What’s the meaning of life? What’s the point of living?

All of us ask ourselves at one time or another (or regularly!) questions like “What should I do with my life to be happy?”, “What can I do to improve my life?”, “Am I doing what I was born to do?”, “If I could only do…..then things would be better”. Ad infinitum.

We spend our lives focused on what. What to do now, what not to do, what to do next, what we did, or didn’t, do days, weeks or years ago, what we should, shouldn’t, must, mustn’t, would like to do etc. while at the same time what we really want is simply to feel good, regardless of what we are doing.

If we are doing something we would usually identify as pleasant but are not feeling good then it’s not a nice experience, is it? But if we are doing something we would usually identify as unpleasant but are feeling good then it would be a nice experience, despite the circumstances, wouldn’t it?

So WHAT you are doing matters but little my friend – peace, joy, happiness and pleasantness are only found in the HOW of things. How I am doing what I am doing is the key to a joyful life. As the adage goes, it’s about the journey and not the destination. It’s true!

Now HOW is all about awareness. The more awareness you bring to what you are doing, the more you are focused on the how, rather than the what. Awareness lets in the joy of simply living and closes the door to memory and its interminable mind games.

Yeh; i know, theory is always the easy part and intellectually understanding something doesn’t change a damn thing. Well, actually understanding intellectually IS the first step in change. Once an intellectualy understanding is assimilated emotionally then it starts to become real change.

To take the step from intellectual understanding to emotional requires you to have a heightend awareness of your physical body – Emotion being e-motion, or energy-in-motion. Energy in motion within your body creates your feelings, thoughts and actions, so it really is the building block of your life experience.

When you are aware of the energy flowing through your body at any given time (where it is, how strong, pleasant or unpleasant…) then you have a heightened appreciation of your state and are consequently living in the HOW rather than the what.

When you are actually aware of something you are able to make a conscious choice to either stay with it or change it, aren’t you? A lack of awareness is when you lose control and become a victim of your mind’s madness.

As always, you mind would love you to think that true peace either doesn’t exist or requires you to be an extraordianary human being or requires you to live and die thousands of times first, when in reality it’s a consequence of just being outside of the mind.

Breathe deep, relax and feel the energy!

“How can one ever know anything if they are too busy thinking?” Gautama Buddha

“Be where you are; otherwise you will miss your life” Buddha





“Repetition is the mother of learning, the father of action, which makes it the architect of accomplishment.” Zig Ziglar

Consciousness, or awareness, is the key to everything. The more conscious, or aware, you are, then the closer you are to living life as it actually is, so take Zig Ziglar’s advice and re-read this blog ad infinitum.

So, there´s a lot of literature and talk about living “consciously” with every breath and every step…but what does that mean exactly and, more importantly, can we know when we are being conscious?

I once did a group activity where 3 from the group were previously selected to observe the rest of us performing a task. As I naturally tend to take the lead in group activities I soon found myself leading the task at hand and, at least to my own reckoning, doing a good job at organising and delegating.

Low and behold at the end of the activity I was blasted on various points that the observers noted – all of which landed like a wet sock striking my face. My ego was hurt but on reflection I could not argue with objective observation and had to accept the critiques.

Needless to say, assuming I am not an exception to the rule, we are not who we think we are and we do not act how we think we act, at least most of the time. Depending on the situation we are more or less blinded by our prejudices and beliefs and interpret events through these filters, incapable of just seeing the world for what it is in that moment.

Being truly conscious means being able to “see” beyond these filters and simply take each and every moment of life for what it is in that very moment. Easier said than done! Still, the path begins once you understand this truth and determine to act according to it. It cannot be forced or programmed, only determined with absolute clarity and commitment. The seeing and commitment will bring about a natural change in awareness, as long as you relax and have faith that the change will happen.

As with all psychological challenges, you cannot ask the problem to solve itself so you are left “simply” with understanding, clarity and commitment. Yes, you can!

“What is necessary to change a person is to change their awareness of themselves.” Abraham Maslow