Law of Attraction

When the now famous book The Secret came out around 10 years ago I tried intently to understand it and apply the lessons in the book in my life. Considering my business was sold, I lost my home and then was divorced within the five years following reading the book I think I could safely say I didn’t get the message.

In the last five years, however, my life has gone from strength to strength and I have achieved everything I have set out to achieve (only limited by my own expectations of what is possible). Without being consciously aware of it, I have improved my understanding of, and application of, one of the most powerful laws of life – the Law of Attraction.

There are many ways to name and describe this law but for me the greatest realisation has been through the concept of vibration. The Law of Attraction is also known as the Law of Vibration. In its essence, everything is energy: we are energy. That is, we are constantly vibrating and those vibrations are determined by what we are thinking and feeling.

Now, for me, the real breakthrough was when I finally understood that the vibrations created from our thoughts and feelings happen inside us, and only inside us. It makes no difference who or what you are thinking about, who or what you are looking at or who or what you are talking to -everything happens inside our own bodies. That is why “what goes around comes around”. In fact, its not even going around, we are simply just creating it inside ourselves with every thought and every feeling.

Anger, sadness, frustration, bitterness, despair, spite and all negative thoughts are creating negative emotions inside our body, regardless of who these thoughts are directed at. They may or may not affect the other person, but they sure as hell affect ourselves. We are our own worst enemy!

Oh, and our own best friend, if we choose to be so.

That brings me to my second realisation and that is how fundamental it is to love and appreciate yourself. I cannot stress this enough!! I am not talking about arrogance or pride, but of an essential self-respect and tenderness towards oneself. You cannot be to another as you are not to yourself – fact. To love and care for you is to love and care for others. It really is that simple.

Oh, and you are the only one who can do this. This is your greatest responsibility and your key to all.

When you see that every thought and every feeling is created within you and literally changes who you are, you must come to a realisation of how important it is to treat every thought and feeling with its due attention because with every vibration they create, they are defining your tomorrow.

“All that we are is a result of what we have thought” Buddha

“It is the combination of thought and love which forms the irresistible force of the law of attraction” Charles Haanel

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ABOUT FORGIVENESS

Foregiveness

Having been through a divorce a few years back with 2 small children I had the opportunity to reflect long and hard on forgiveness. Yep, over and over…

What is forgiveness? Why do we need to forgive? Is it even necessary? Is it possible?

Although it might seem contradictory, forgiveness is fundamentally about you, not anyone else. It is about you because it is you who suffers when you carry resentment and anger inside you. It is about you because you cannot forgive without first making an effort to really understand the situation. It is about you because you cannot forgive without being really honest with yourself. It is about you because it is your responsibility to love and respect yourself first and foremost.

Forgiveness comes fundamentally from a willingness to forgive and a sincere desire to understand. You cannot easily forgive someone through just wanting to be a good person and leaving the past behind you. It requires a willingness to forgive and a clarity that forgiveness is about you finding peace.

To forgive does not necessarily mean to forget or trust again. Forgiveness is to accept what has happened and know it cannot be undone. It is what it is and the important thing now is to be happy and that cannot happen when you carry the burdens of the past with you.

Life is only lived right NOW, so the only moment that truly matters is now. You’re primary concern, therefore, should be that you feel great right now. Everything that takes you away from that should be banished. Forgiveness starts with forgiving yourself for what happened (why did I let it…how could I be so stupid…why didn’t I…) which allows you to live peacefully now.

If I don’t feel good right now, then my life is not a good one and I will just continue to live more of the same in the future (because what I think and feel today will define me tomorrow). That MUST be my priority, and if that is my priority then I must let the past go. Letting the past go is about ME being happy right now. It has nothing to do with anyone else. I am the only person who can truly understand me and I am the only person who can make my life better.

I forgive because I want to be happy right now (have a quality life) and because I know the past can never be undone. I forgive because I know that will improve my quality of life and of those around me. I forgive so that I am free from the past, but I do not forget as the lessons learnt from my experiences can be valuable in being clear about who and what I choose in my life. I forgive because I choose to be a strong person and be an example for others to follow.

I forgive because I love and respect me!

“The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.”                    Mahatma Ghandhi

“The first step of forgiveness is the willingness to forgive.”                                          Marianne Williamson

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NO EXCUSES

ExcusesI was once involved in a work project given to us by the executive management team involving myself and 5 other managers. By the end of the 3 month project, there were just 3 of us left in it and of those three, two of us had done 95% of the work. The shocking point here is that all of us were local or area manager level.

It’s about mindset and taking responsibility. When you are in a fixed mindset then the blame for unwanted circumstances and events generally falls on someone or something else. When you refuse to take (at least some) responsibility for events then you will never make progress as nothing gets done, and no progress is made without action.

Excuses are the easy way out. A successful project, job and life isn’t about justifying with all the reasons why something did or didn’t happen or get done, but about deciding, finding the time and resolving.

Start at the beginning. When you have a choice in the matter, don’t commit unless you are 100% on board and will follow through. If you don’t have a choice (e.g. work obligations) then focus your energy on planning and executing rather than why it can’t/couldn’t be done.

Fundamentally excuses denote a focus on “me”, as opposed to “us”. The truth of the matter though is that a successful and happy life is most-certainly more about focussing on “us” than “me”. You know that if you avoid responsibility it sticks and nags, hounding you until you either spend the effort to do what’s expected of you, or you spend the effort in creating a “feasible” excuse.

Either way you’ve had to focus on the task, so why not just focus on getting it done rather than why you didn’t? It’s a win/win; taking “excuses” out of your vocabulary means you will be fulfilling your responsibilities and getting more done. This means, setting yourself up for greater success and achievement. Just do it! 🙂

“You can make excuses or you can make progress. You choose.” Brian Tracy

“It is better to offer no excuse than a bad one.” George Washington

“I attribute my success to this: I never gave or took an excuse.” Florence Nightingale

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